A mum-to-be asked Reddit users for advice after her boyfriend refused to let her call their baby after her amazing mum who “almost died” after giving birth to her
Choosing a name for your baby is an exciting, yet challenging task that not all couples may agree on to begin with.
While one person may like traditional names, the other may prefer more unique monikers.
But what happens when you can’t agree at all?
One woman has revealed that her boyfriend hates the name she’s chosen for their baby – even though it means the world to her.
In a post on Reddit, the 18-year-old said that for as long as she can remember, she’s wanted to name her firstborn son Jack after her mum, Jacqueline/Jacqui, “who has been an amazing mother and almost died giving birth to me, resulting in her not being able to have any more kids.”
So when she found out that she and her boyfriend, 19, were expecting a baby boy, she knew exactly what to call him – but things didn’t exactly go to plan.
“When he found out I was pregnant he told me it was either him or the baby and I chose to keep my baby even if it meant losing him,” she said.
“He stayed with me anyway but hasn’t gone to any midwife appointments and missed one of the scans because he didn’t want to go out for lunch with me and my mum after,” even though she says he and her mum have had no issues in the past.
“Last month we found out we are having a boy,” she added.
But when she mentioned the name to her boyfriend, he said, “anything but Jack,” even though he knew how much the name meant to her.
“He has given no reason other than it’s a popular name and hasn’t given any other suggestions.
“He won’t even have a conversation about baby names. The baby will have his surname and the middle name will be named after his father which I think is fair.”
She went on to say that considering she is carrying the baby for nine months, giving birth to him, and being his primary caretaker she should have some say in his name… but her boyfriend isn’t budging.
She asked users whether she was in the wrong for wanting to name the baby Jack anyway but everyone was on her side.
One person said: “Name your baby what you want and I wouldn’t even put his last name or his info on the birth certificate with the way he’s acting.”
Another commented: “I’d seriously reconsider your child’s last name and have your surname for your child. He’s already made you choose between him and your baby he’s lucky he’s getting a second chance and he really needs to step up.”
A third wrote: “He wants nothing to do with anything so why should he help decide the name.”
While others urged her to dump her boyfriend, as one person said: “He is definitely looking for any excuse to leave apart from actually leaving. He is purposefully making your life difficult already. It’s only going to get worse when the baby comes. You need to break up with him.”